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Children first: 10 things you should do after a divorce

Divorce is hard on you, so imagine how it can feel for your children. They cannot control the situation. They didn't choose it. And it still puts their lives into the same sort of turmoil that you face.

The key is to put the kids first. Focus on them. Work hard for them. Understand how they feel and what you can do as a parent to make this easier. Here are 10 things you should do:

Your Illinois prenuptial agreement may not hold up in court

Asset division, or the process of splitting up both your possessions and your debts, is one of the most contentious parts of a divorce. More couples than ever before are seeking to eliminate the stress by signing prenuptial agreements. A prenup is basically a contract outlining how you plan to handle a divorce.

Unfortunately, many people execute these documents with heart-shaped stars in their eyes. They imagine that they will be married forever, and the terms of the prenup are not important to them.

Yes, you can modify child support orders after a divorce

The end of your divorce is often a time of muted celebration. On the one hand, you've just ended a major relationship, which can be a source of sorrow. On the other, however, is the fact that you have a fresh start and a future that's now wide open. You may also simply be glad that the process is officially over. Now you know what assets you can keep, what the terms for custody will be and how much child support you have to pay.

Feeling relieved about the finalization of your divorce is completely normal. It's also common to believe that those terms are written in stone. As you move on with your life, you may soon find that your situation changes, leaving you in a position where child support as ordered is no longer reasonable or workable with your budget. At that point, you'll be glad to know that you may have the option of adjusting support levels.

Mediation can be a great resource for a fast and affordable divorce

One of the biggest issues with getting a divorce is the amount of time the process requires and the potential for major expenses along the way. If you and your spouse don't agree to terms regarding serious issues likes child custody and how to divide your assets, it could lead to a contentious, drawn-out divorce in court. However, it's important to realize that isn't your only option.

For many couples, mediation offers a great alternative to a combative divorce in the courts. Choosing mediation is sometimes much faster and more affordable than a court-based divorce. More importantly, you could reap many benefits from mediation, including more control over the final terms of your divorce and less stress and damage to any children from your marriage.

Top reasons why people get divorced

Some people think that infidelity is the main reason why couples divorce, but the reality is that there are many reasons why married couples choose to go their separate ways. Right now, you may be wondering if you should file for divorce and you could have reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with cheating.

The reasons for divorce range from financial problems and lack of communication to simply falling out of love. To learn more about why people choose to divorce, read further.

Do you know how to fairly divide assets in your divorce?

When divorce comes knocking, many couples do not anticipate just how complicated the process is, especially when a marriage contains complex assets. While getting married is a fairly straightforward process, achieving a fair divorce is rarely ever as simple.

When you and your spouse decide to divorce, there are many different ways that might play out, depending on each of your priorities. For some couples, a divorce is saying goodbye indefinitely, while others wish to maintain a functional relationship, often for the sake of children.

Unmarried separations and paternity in Illinois

The end of any relationship is a difficult time. In cases where the couple wasn't married, that process can be simpler than in cases where parents get divorced.

Unfortunately, if you didn't get married and had children together, that can make the separation more complicated. Both parents may want full or partial custody, or one parent may want visitation.

To ensure everything works out in a legal and appropriate manner, you need to establish paternity of your child as early as possible. Ideally, you went through the process of establishing paternity when your children were born.

3 times to consider modifying child custody arrangements

There are times when you or your ex may want to discuss changing your child custody arrangements. In many cases, the reason to do this is because there is a major life change occurring. For example, maybe you have a new job offer in another state, so you want to adjust your visitation and custody schedule. Here are four times when you may want to go to court to modify your custody arrangements.

Illinois child support: Common questions

For parents in Illinois and elsewhere, figuring out how to financially support children after divorce or separation can be a challenging and confusing thing. Thankfully, the state has very specific guidelines when it comes to child support to make it a little easier. If you are one of the many parents dealing with child support issues, this column will work to address some of the common questions asked about this topic.

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